The Value of Hiring a Parenting Coach

Many parents are typically overwhelmed and get stressed whenever their kids act rude, aggressively, or throws tantrums, whether they are at home or outside. This is because parents don’t have a solution for the child’s behavior.

Most times, the parents may ask friends or relatives who have kids how they handled the situation with their kids. Everyone has a different opinion, and sometimes the solutions the parents get may not work for their children.

When that happens, parents think about seeking a parenting coach for advice, but some parents think of parenting coaches as a type of psychoanalysis or therapy, which makes them afraid.

However, skilled professional coaches help parents understand their relationship and their relationship with the children. Depending on the child’s issues or what provokes them, the parenting coach provides the parents with tools to help correct their child’s behavior.

The changes that a parenting coach suggests to parents help them have a foundation to build a healthier and stronger relationship with their children.

Benefits Of A Parenting Coach

The advice parenting coaches give parents can help them handle any situation with their children by assisting them to do several things like;

  • Learning how to respond to different situations better instead of reacting
  • Learning different ways to be a firm, yet a kind parent
  • Building a calmer, happier, and more healthy family setting without yelling
  • Learning effective communication techniques for their children of different ages
  • Remaining calm during different parenting situations
  • Improving their relationship with their children as well as that of the child and their siblings
  • Providing their children with tools and attention to find a solution on their own
  • Understanding how children’s needs and behavioral patterns change at different ages

All these solutions assist parents in offering their children the type of parenting they need to thrive positively socially, emotionally, and intellectually. That helps the children at an early age and helps them effectively cope with different life circumstances in the future.

With the current lifestyle, parents are always busy and overwhelmed with different tasks. However, with the help of a parenting coach, parents find easier and faster ways to deal with their children’s behavior, which is not only less stressful but leaves them with more time to enjoy what they love.

Instead of focusing on past issues, parenting coaches help parents focus on the present and future, allowing them to create goals and clear steps to achieve those goals.

This article was originally published on BryanDunst.com

Raising a Strong-Willed Child

Before you became a parent, you might have imagined many things about your future child. You likely knew that they would be smart, kind, and capable of achieving their dreams. Yet, you might not have bargained for a child whose will is so strong that they border on being defiant. While you can’t change your child’s reactions to the world, you can help them learn to manage their behavior. Parenting a strong-willed child is easier when you keep these strategies in mind.

Remember the Benefits of a Strong Will

If you take a moment to think about a few leaders that you know, you’ll likely notice that they have what people commonly consider to be a strong will. You simply can’t get to the top unless you have a serious passion and drive to get what you want. Your child’s strong will comes with valuable traits such as perseverance, confidence, and a desire to be independent. While this might not seem great when they can throw a tantrum for hours when they don’t get their way, it will one day work out for them to have a personality that makes them ideal for being a CEO.

Encourage a Flexible Mindset

Every activity that your child does at home and school provides them with a chance to practice their social skills. One way that you can help your child is to plan activities at home that require them to adjust to other people’s preferences. For instance, everyone could vote on where to go for a dinner out. Your child might have to learn to go with the flow if their choice is outnumbered. Being in a safe place lets your child work through their difficult emotions before they have to be in public.

Help Them Find Ways to Manage Stress

Children with strong wills often experience more stress than others who adapt quickly to changes. You can teach your child coping skills that they can turn to when they don’t get their way. Try showing your child how to practice deep breathing or briefly play with a soothing toy until they calm down. Make sure to practice these skills when your child is calm so that they can become automatic for them to use later when they are upset.

When you have a strong-willed child, it is important to remember that your mindset also influences your child’s behavior. Try to remember to take a break when you feel stressed, and encourage your child to do the same. Over time, your child will learn how to respond appropriately to changes in their environment and routine, and you can look forward to one day seeing the positive aspects of their strong personality helping them to become a leader in their school and community.

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The Psychological Benefits of Physical Touch in Early Life

In the past, a newborn baby would be removed from his or her parents and taken directly to the nursery to be cleaned, weighed, monitored, poked, and prodded. As it turns out, advances in modern medicine are returning to a more natural approach for good reason. Doctors now recommend skin-to-skin contact immediately after birth. Not only does it regulate the baby’s breathing, blood pressure, and heart rate, it also triggers endorphins that are critical in a child’s social, moral, and psychological development for a lifetime.

Children who receive positive physical touch from caregivers, who are comforted with a hug when upset, held, and cuddled, tend to have more positive social interactions and moral regulation into adulthood while children who receive more negative touch, such as corporal punishment, or a lack of positive physical interaction in early life tend to have more negative outcomes overall. Additionally, children from both groups, tend to imitate the behaviors they see, which can impact their relationships in the future.

Physical touch releases oxytocin, an important neurologically communicative hormone that plays a key role in childbirth and breastfeeding. It is also integral in forming love bonds between children and caregivers. It affects the parts of the brain which control emotions and empathy as well as social skills and trust. When children learn to love, trust, and empathize with their caregivers from the beginning, they will project those important lessons upon their peers and in their relationships as adults and parents themselves.

A child’s brain development hinges on positive and appropriate stimulation from caregivers. Children from homes of extreme neglect tend to have smaller, less developed brains. Without intervention, they may pass negatively modeled behaviors and their own development on to future generations. Likewise, children who come from loving homes tend to have better brain development, higher academic achievement, less legal trouble, and an easier time forming relationships. They also enjoy longer lives than those who were neglected or abused as children as adverse childhood experiences are known to lead to a shorter lifespan.

To ensure a child has the best chance in life, avoids mental health issues later on, and achieves his or her full developmental potential, caregivers should practice gentle and loving interaction from the start.

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Raising Your Kids to be Successful

Parenting isn’t easy. After all, there’s no manual to it. Luckily, vicarious learning can simplify it a great deal. Learning from other parents is a great way to avoid making certain mistakes. Scientists have studied different parental behaviors over time. And today, any parent out there has a cheat code to raising successful children. Here are some tips worth noting.

Teach Them to Fall in Love With Nature

The success of a child depends a lot on their cognitive development. Taking the child out to play from an early age helps nurture their cognitive development. It’s even better when the child can interact with green spaces. This leads to a more fulfilling life and a general sense of well-being as the child grows up. On top of this, time spent outdoors also helps children in their academics. Kids who spend time playing outside during recess tend to read better than those who don’t.

Be a Present Parent

This is usually tough for many parents who are trying to put food on the table. Juggling work and family can be difficult. But it’s critical to create time for the kids. Children need to feel supported, and present parents help them do that. Kids who’ve got a good relationship with present parents experience a lot of success. After all, success stems from children with self-esteem and a sense of self-efficacy.

Show Them How to Care for Others

Nurturing altruistic behavior in children is also a great way to ensure success. Making time to teach the kids virtues like kindness, empathy, and love leads to their success. Such success stems from the fact that they’ll have a less selfish way of looking at the world. An egocentric attitude often hampers one’s problem-solving abilities.

Be Someone They Can Look Up To

Children model behaviors of their caregivers. That means if you’d like them to turn out a certain way, you should act that out for them. That doesn’t mean being perfect. It means showing them how to act even when they do make mistakes.

While parenting isn’t easy, bringing up successful kids shouldn’t have to feel impossible. Thanks to all the research that’s out there, one only needs to apply the information.

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Personal Finance Psychology to Practice

Finance psychology is the study of the mind towards saving, spending, and investing decisions. Financial decisions are tied down in mind and significantly impact an individual’s psychological health and wellness. Therefore, it is an area of concern affecting several individuals. Let us brush over some of the practices to adopt in personal finance psychology and the relationship between money and our mind.

Emotions play a huge role

The emotions tied to money include guilt, shame, and envy. So, it is worth taking care of these emotions to avoid rational thinking. Shame is the most common emotion associated with cash. It is considered a reason for people avoiding what they know they should do. Some of the conventional shameful versions related to money are avoiding thinking about finances and not doing what you are supposed to be doing, like saving for retirement. Others include spending too much money or buying items when feeling unhappy and do not need the things.

Shame works well with avoidance, and for this reason, an individual may find themselves procrastinating on financial issues, which ends up costing them so much. Other emotions tied to finances are envy and greed, among others.

Family and childhood influences

We are all aware every family has a different view of money. Psychology is diverse, ranging from which gender should handle money and finances. Furthermore, they are always stories in a family concerning finances that are part of the family’s identity. Sometimes when you become successful, you may want to ignore your own financial needs and give back to your family. Nevertheless, it is an issue to address.

Mental health and illness

Health studies show that one in every three Americans is likely to suffer from mental illness. The various diseases include bipolar disorder, depression, and alcohol use disorder. Any individual experiencing any mental illness cannot be able to manage any finances. Therefore, for these individuals, delegating financial management is the best course of action.

How to deal with money emotions

It is not wrong to have emotions. It only shows you are alive. The key to dealing with emotions is self-awareness once you know what should be tackled at a particular time. It is the only way of dealing with emotions. For example, once you identify how to handle family relations regarding finances, it can influence your relationship with money.

Final thoughts

The above mentioned are some factors that bring about psychological issues in regard to finance. It is best to address each case at its level to avoid having mental breakdowns and financial matters, as these are some of the contributors.

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Traveling Safely During The COVID-19 Pandemic

Travel has been difficult to do since the COVID-19 pandemic shook the United States back in March. Many people had to cancel their trips because locations were no longer taking tourists or because they didn’t feel comfortable traveling during a pandemic, fearing they would catch the virus or bring it home to a loved one. Fast forward to today, and travel has loosened up quite a bit. Although many places are allowing tourists and people are traveling in all sorts of ways, that doesn’t mean it’s one hundred percent safe to do so. Travelling is currently on an “at your own risk” basis, so it’s up to you to understand that you’re at risk by going on a trip and subjecting yourself to environments where you could contract the virus. If you’re really itching for travel, or need to travel for work or family reasons, here are a few tips to help you do so safely.

Go Somewhere Less Crowded

If you’re trying to go on a vacation, a great way to keep yourself safe is by avoiding crowded travel destinations. Many people have chosen to go to beach areas, meaning many of them are packed and leave little room for you to comfortably enjoy yourself. To top it off, many people will choose to not wear their masks even if the area they’re in requires it. A good recommendation to avoid crowds on your next vacation is by going on a camping trip. Bring a small group of people who you feel comfortable being around and set up tents at a campsite or rent a cabin in the woods. You’ll be able to have a fun outdoor experience with friends and family while keeping everyone safe.

Think About Transportation

One of the most important things to think about when you decide to take your trip is how you’re going to get there. Depending on where you’re going you’ll likely have various options, all that have their own upsides and downsides. Flying is likely the most popular choice for travel in general, but it can be a rather high risk. Every airline is handling the pandemic differently, so it’s important you look into how the airline you’re choosing is keeping its customers safe. Train and bus travel have similar risks, especially if the vehicles are crowded. A great way to take a train or bus and protect yourself is by booking a ticket during an off-peak time where it’s less likely to be crowded. Ultimately, your best option will likely be to drive yourself if you have that option. You know where your car has been and where the people driving with you have been, meaning you’re ultimately in more control of the situation and your health.

Pack a COVID-19 Safety Kit

If you’re insisting on traveling, it’s wise to pack yourself a COVID-19 safety kit with all of the essentials to protect you and your loved ones. Your safety kit should have items such as masks, hand sanitizer, anti-bacterial wet wipes, and possibly even spare bars of soap. Disposable masks can break if not properly taken care of and non-disposable ones are likely to get gross with more use, so it’s good to have backup masks when you need them as opposed to using the same one your entire trip. Hand sanitizer can be useful for quick moments when you want to clean your hands but don’t have access to a place to wash them, but it’s also wise to bring some soap with you to make sure you can wash your hands when the opportunity arises. Wet wipes can be useful for wiping down surfaces you touch such as tables or doors as well.

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Tips For Travelling From Home

For the last few months, travelling has gone through a lot of changes. Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, many people have been avoiding travel and are even trying to quarantine in their house as much as possible. The travel industry took a small break in the beginning, but with summer time in full swing many have begun travelling again. If you’re someone who doesn’t feel comfortable with travelling yet, there are plenty of ways to experience other places and cultures from the comfort of your own home.

Eat A Meal From Another Country

One of the best ways to experience another culture when you can’t travel is by cooking a meal from that culture. Many cultures have their own unique styles of food and can provide plenty of new and interesting dishes to try. Think of places you’ve traveled to in the past or check out signature dishes from places you’d like to visit. This is a great way to experience something new and that you can make again and again.

Take Virtual Tours

Due to technology and the Internet we can do things we couldn’t do 30 years ago from the comfort of our home. One of those things is taking a virtual tour of a place you want to visit. There plenty of places that offer virtual tours over the internet, such as being able to view national parks on Google Earth. This is a wonderful way to learn about the place you want to visit while getting to see great views on your computer or television.

Play a video game

If you have a video game console or a good computer you can always check out video games. There are plenty of video games that take place in the real world and feature real world locations that can be considered fairly accurate depictions. Check out games like Assassin’s Creed: Odyssey, which takes place in Ancient Greece and has accurate depictions of buildings such as the Parthenon. You can also play fictional games, as many of them feature interesting and beautiful fictional locations that can transport you to another world.

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Packing Tips for Your Next Overseas Trip

Planning a trip to a new place across the world can be fun and exciting. When planning your next overseas adventure, it’s important to have everything you need. Many people make the mistake of overpacking and it ends up putting a hindrance on their trip. To avoid this, follow these packing tips for your next overseas trip:

Packing Cubes are Best

To make packing your trip easier and more organized, opt for packing cubes. Using color-coded cubes helps you know exactly where all your belongings are as soon as your suitcase is unzipped. Instead of rifling through the suitcase looking for that one item, you can neatly find it in it’s assigned cubes. These packing cubes also easily move your items into the drawers of your hotel dresser for an even more organized trip.

Plan Your Outfits

It’s easy to overdo it on the packing in all the excitement of going somewhere new. To make sure you don’t overpack, plan out what you’ll be wearing on the days of your trips. This way, you can avoid bringing something you won’t end up wearing and make the load a little bit lighter. This can also help you dress according to the activities and itinerary you have planned for your trip.

Choose the Right Footwear

Heading out to a new adventure usually means a lot of exploring and a lot of walking. When packing for your trip, go for comfort over fashion. Choose shoes you’ll be able to wear more than once with each outfit and ones you’ll be comfortable wearing for long periods at a time. Not only does this ensure your trip won’t be ruined by foot pains and aches but bringing only a few select footwear can leave room in your suitcase for more essential items.

Use Sample-Sized Toiletries 

Many people make the mistake of bringing their entire bathroom of beauty products with them. This is not only a mistake because of how much room it takes up, but airports only allow a certain amount of liquids. To avoid this, but sample-sized versions of your favorite toiletries. This helps you pack light and chances are you won’t even use all of it even given their small size. When you’re home, you can simply add what’s leftover to your regular-sized products.

Eating Healthy During A Pandemic

The past few months have been a little crazy as we try to get the pandemic known as COVID-19 under control. Many people went into quarantine to some degree, only leaving the house for work or to go buy essential items such as groceries, and while things have loosened up around the country, there are still many people who are struggling as we try to get back to some sort of normalcy. One of the most difficult things about living through a pandemic, whether you’re quarantining and working from home or not, is eating healthy. It can be hard to stick to healthy eating habits when you’re stuck at home or can’t see your friends and family, so here are a few healthy eating tips.

Hydrate

One of the most important aspects of healthy eating is making sure you stay hydrated. Everyone needs to drink water, and the amount you need everyday usually varies based on factors such as age, weight, sex and the amount of physical activity you partake in among a few other things. A lot of foods we eat give us some of that water we need but it’s never enough. If you have access to safe tap water, that’s one of the best ways to stay hydrated. If not, look into buying a filter system for your faucet, or buy a pitcher that has a filter built in. You’ll be hydrated in no time!

Portion Sizes

One of the hardest parts about cooking from home is controlling your portion sizes. You want to make sure you’re getting enough food and not overeating, and the correct portion size typically varies from food to food. It’s understandable if you make a whole bunch of food because you don’t want something to go bad or for other reasons, but remember that you don’t need to eat it all in one sitting. Make your food, figure out the correct portion size, and then save the rest for another day if you can.

Fruits and Veggies

Some of the most important foods you should be eating are your fruits and vegetables. They give us vitamins, minerals and fiber, all important things our body needs in order to avoid illness and stay healthy. You should be trying to eat at least 5 portions of fruits and veggies every day, and they can be frozen, fresh, canned, dried or juiced. It’s also best to have a variety of fruits and veggies and not the same thing all day long, that way you’re making sure you get everything you need.

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Should I Carry a Mortgage in Retirement?

If you’re like most retirees or retirees-to-be, being debt free is a prerequisite to your retirement application. Here are four reasons to reconsider this once foregone conclusion.

  1. Mortgage qualification – post financial crisis era legislation has all but done away with mortgage qualification without W-2 or salary income. Reverse mortgages are excluded from this generality, but we’ll discuss those in a different post.
  2. Liquidity access – dovetailed with mortgage qualification is access to liquidity. In this case we are talking about the liquidity tied up in the equity of your home. A sound financial plan never includes “spending the house” but adding this liquidity to your retirement nest egg sure can lend some peace of mind
  3. Net mortgage cost – even with the tax plan passed in 2017, most individuals still expect to claim a deduction for mortgage interest, effectively reducing the net carrying cost of a mortgage. As of the date this article is written, 30 year mortgage rates are in the 4.0-4.5% range. This equates to a net cost of 3.0-4.0% depending on your effective tax rate. This cost of capital is at or near historically low levels.
  4. Return on equity – after decades of falling rates, we may be in for a period of rising interest rates. Those who can lock into a long-term fixed rate may be able to a higher return with fixed income investments in the future. Even a 1% higher return over your net mortgage cost on a mortgage spanning the length of your retirement can return greenbacks to your ledger and not the banks’!

While individuals are not permitted to utilize cash out home financing to deliberately make capital market investment purposes, there are no stipulations requiring you to pay cash for your retirement home.

For your retirement’s sake, consider carrying some debt in retirement and allowing it to work for you. As always, be sure to consult with your tax advisor and financial professional for insight into how this strategy might work for your specific situation.